Ok, first off if my tone sounds bitchy it's because I have a lot going on in life and after six months of group decisions it seems that nothing anyone agreed to is now acceptable. I do not have a tone but need to get this out there so we dont spend time in the future planning something that ultimately someone isnt 100% about. This frustrates me as I try hard to keep everyone focused on stupid books and keeping our club together then I end up being the pushy bitch who everyone is annoyed with cuz I'm trying to make things happen.
First, if in the future we come up with a plan, everyone must state their true feelings. If you don't think it'll work for you you need to voice that. If you go along with the plan cuz it sounds fun but it isn't possible then you are leading us all on. For instance if someone knew all along that this sf anniversary just wouldn't work they should have said so so we didn't all get our hopes up to have them crushed in the end. We could have easily planned a less involved anniversary, even though we deserve a night on the town.
Thus far all tasks delegated to others have not happened. This is why I typically just do everything so I know it will get done.
I am contemplating not even coming to this months meeting cuz I don't know if anyone will have read the book besides Tristana and I and I'm tired of being the nazi (no pun reference to our book intended) person who always seem to be bumming the group out. I kind of feel like just letting the meeting happen and whatever happens happens.
I was going to do an agenda but why no one listens and I seem to get flack for trying to refocuse the group.
At this point I don't know what we are doing, how we are doing it and when.
If anyone cares that I feel totally useless to this group then it would be nice to see some participation.
At our last meeting and notated in our last meeting minutes, everyone is supposed to text or email me what they want to discuss at meeting. You all wanted an agenda but again I make one then can't get anyone's attention, so I need all you to tell me what you'd like to discuss possibly give some book ideas or discussion topics for our book. Something that shows I'm not the only one juggling life and club. I know I don't have a kid so you all think I have it easier but that's just not the case.
For now I'm done, I'm gonna read my nazi book and hope to discuss it but unless I get some feedback I'm not even going to do an agenda. I'm also not planning the anniversary anymore. I feel like I put a bunch of effort in with nothing to show. Sorry for being such a downer I am just really depressed right now and knowing that our fabulous anniversary isn't happening kinda put a damper on my sunshine. I apologize if I'm harsh sounding.
Ali, I totally see what you are talking about and I agree. I feel sorry for you that it's all on your back. I love this club and I wouldn't have been able to make it through some really tough shit without you girls.(I think we all could agree). But Ali shouldn't have to endure everything. I think we should vote a Vice President to help. We aren't as devoted anymore and that sucks. For the record I'm reading the book (half way done), but have slacked and I feel bad because of that.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with Ali that I am totally bummed out that our anniversary in SF might not happen. We need to do this for ourselves. Stop being mom's and wives for one night and just go out and shake things up with our girls. Isn't that why we started this club...to read some awesome books and to have girl time?! I think you should come to club Ali on the 19th and we need to all talk about the fate of this club. I'm still in ...
Ali, I'm sorry you feel like everything is on your back. I am reading the book and am willing to help if you need it. I know it's frustrating when people don't read the books and I have slacked on the last few. I think people haven't emailed what we want to discuss because the meeting is still over a week away. When we first brought up the idea of SF I said I would only be able to go if Mac could come up and watch Lana. When I told him the date he said it wouldn't work because he has to work on Saturday. Unfortunately, I have no family available to watch her and she goes to bed at 10:30 every night and wakes up every hour if I'm not there.
ReplyDeleteI don't think anyone would like to take a break and go out for the night more than me. In the last year I have only been able to go out for about two hours and have had to come home by 10:30. If someone can come up with the solution I'd love to hear it. I was hoping Mac could come up and watch Lana, I could put her down, and then, go out again. Now it seems like the only solution would be for me to hire a babysitter, pay for her to get a room, put Lana down and have her stay in the room with Lana until I came back.
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